How good are you at taking care of yourself?
Yes___ No___ 1. Do you take time for yourself every day?
Yes___ No___ 2. Do you exercise 5 times a week for at least
Yes___ No___ 3. Do you get 7-8 hours of sleep every night?
Yes___ No___ 4. Do you brush and floss your teeth twice
Yes___ No___ 5. Do you have a haircut you love?
Yes___ No___ 6. Do you your nails look great?
Yes___ No___ 7. Do you get together with a friend at least
once a month?
Yes___ No___ 8. Do you have a hobby you do at least twice
Yes___ No___ 9. Do you have a spiritual discipline like
prayer, meditation, or church?
Yes___ No___ 10. Do you watch less than one hour of TV a
Yes___ No___ 11. Do you say no to requests that aren't right
Yes___ No___ 12. Do you usually know how you are feeling?
Yes___ No___ 13. Do you usually know what you need?
Yes___ No___ 14. Is your home organized enough to make you
Yes___ No___ 15. Does your environment support your goals?
Yes___ No___ 16. Do you have something fun to look forward
to every evening?
Yes___ No___ 17. Do you take frequent breaks during the
day to recharge?
Yes___ No___ 18. Do you have a nurturing daily routine?
Yes___ No___ 19. Do you have a relaxing bedtime ritual?
Yes___ No___ 20. Do you know what you are passionate about?
Now add up all your Yes answers.
17-20 I am very proud of you. You are taking excellent
care of yourself. Now you can delve further into things
like getting massages, simplifying your life, and getting
rid of as many stressors as you can.
13-16 You know how to take care of yourself. Now
to do it consistently. Here is an Excel checklist
you can use to track your daily self-care. Feel free
to add or remove actions to suit your personal needs.
9-12 You may value yourself, but seem to put yourself
last too often. Set an evening just for you every week with
no outside obligations. Cull your calendar to get rid of
unimportant meetings, etc. Turn off the TV after an hour.
Put in a daily half hour for you in your appointment book.
Let go of unrealistic standards of how much you can get
done in a day. Cut your to do list for the day in half.
Now use that time to work on one thing on the checklist
above until you form a habit. Then move onto another one.
4-8 You feel guilty every time you take time for
yourself. You need to realize that your family, friends
and work don't want an empty vessel. They want a vibrant,
authentic, energetic you. Talk with your family about how
you want to start taking better care of yourself. Discuss
how they can help out more. If they are supportive, see
if they are open to having you be accountable to them. Which
thing from the above checklist do you think would have the
most impact on your energy and well-being? Work on that
action until it becomes a habit.
0-3 You don't really think you deserve to take care
of yourself. You feel unimportant in the scheme of things.
Kids, family and everyone else always comes before you.
Journal your feeling about self-care. Write down ways you
give to others. Notice that you are needed. The world wouldn't
be the same without you. Write down your best qualities
and skills. Often we think we don't have any, but if you
ask someone else they will say that they've always admired
you for... We think if something comes easy to us, then
it can't be a real skill. When in reality, the stuff that
comes easy are the things we do best and are meant to do.
You are just as important as the other people in your life.
Shine for them! Pick an easy, non-threatening action to
start caring for yourself. Maybe you can drink one more
glass of water or take 5 minutes alone. Start small and
work your way up.
And most people would benefit by taking the
Extreme Self-Care Program, which shows you how to take
really good care of yourself, so you can be more energetic,
loving, and giving to the world around you.
want to do this on your own? E-coaching
can help you with that.
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