This Issue --
~Welcome and Encouragement
~Offer for Newsletter Subscribers
~Relationship Tips for October
~Feature Article: Making Excuses
~What's New? News,
Programs, Web Site Updates
~Contact Beth Dargis
Did you take time out
to ask yourself the questions from the last newsletter?
edited and re-edited my article. I had to make sure it was just
so. Then I procrastinated on writing the query letter to get my
article published. The house needed cleaning, I ran out of stamps,
the letter wasn't quite right. Delivering the query letter to the
mailbox took another week what with family, meetings and such. I
had good excuses why I wasn't actively trying to get published.
But, the real reason was that I was afraid I wasn't going to be
So many times our excuses are just a cover-up for being afraid.
Unfortunately since the fear is being covered up we have no way
against it. We just go merrily along making more excuses and wondering
why our life is still the same.
We need to
bring our fears out into the open. Next time you feel yourself start
making an excuse, stop. Look behind that excuse and see if a fear
is lurking nearby. Say it like it is. Be honest with yourself with
the real reason you are making excuses. Look the fear in the face.
Only then can you fight it.
- Examine your fear. Is it rational? Is it true that everyone
will laugh at you if you try yoga? Most people will be too busy
worrying about embarrassing themselves at yoga class
- If it is rational, what practical steps can you do to minimize
your risk? If you start your own business you may fail and lose
money. Is there any way to save up money or stay at your job a
little while longer before launching a new business?
- Now go for it! Tell yourself you are scared, but you can do
it anyway. Take itty bitty steps if you need to, but keep moving
forward. Find someone to be accountable to. Tell them what you
are going to do and then check in with them once you accomplish
the task. Don't let yourself make excuses.
Start looking at where you are making excuses frequently. Do you
always make excuses why you can't exercise or why you will do this
1. I frequently make excuses about:
2. What I am really afraid of is:
3. Is this fear rational?
4. If this is rational, what steps can I take to minimize risk?
5. The next three little actions to take will be:
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one month course will help you get out of overload syndrome.
Fearless Living: Live Without Excuses Love without Regret
by Rhonda Britten
surviving a personal trauma she learned to live without fear and
can teach us how to also. I am reading this one right now and it
is really inspiring me.
Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers
Amazing book on conquering fear. I also love her daily affirmations
at her web
site. She also has a new book called
Feel the Fear and Beyond.
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