Date: November 5, 2003

Welcome and Encouragement
Welcome to Encouraging Words monthly newsletter. This FREE newsletter is designed to encourage you to create a saner, more serene life. Please pass it along to friends you would like to inspire.

Thanks to those of you, who allowed me to coach you over the past couple of weeks. I have a great time watching you progress!

I am also excited to have been certified to teach the Extreme Self-Care Program. I am passionate about teaching people how to care for themselves so they have the energy to care for others without resentment.

"To be thrown upon one's own resources, is to be cast into the very lap of fortune; for our faculties then undergo a development and display an energy of which they were previously unsusceptible". - Benjamin Franklin

I encourage you this month to take time out, take care of yourself and live energetically.

Beth Dargis

In This Issue --
~Welcome and Encouragement
~Self Care Tips for November
~Relationship Tips for November
~Feature Article: Energy Plan
~What's New? News, Programs, Web Site Updates
~Free Article for your Newsletter
~ Contact Beth Dargis

Did you examine your excuses from the last newsletter?

Feature Article: Energy Plan

We are coming into the hectic holiday season. We all need as much energy as we can, yet this is the time of year we usually are sick and exhausted.

I have a few ideas to plan for more energy using mental, emotional, spiritual and physical ways to enhance our energy.


  1. Much of our loss of energy is not physical stress, but mental stress. We think about all the things we have to do as our energy seeps out. Let's experiment. Next time you feel stressed by what you need to do, write it down on a list. Then forget about it, for now. Try to keep your mind on what you are doing. Focus yields better results. If your mind wanders, remind yourself that you already wrote it down and you are not on those tasks yet.
  2. One reason we lose energy is because we are procrastinating on something. If you bite the bullet and knock off a bunch of those draining to do's you will feel lighter. Every accomplishment brings more energy.
  3. Another form of mental stress is negativity. If you are only thinking about how awful this project, situation, or chore is, you aren't going to have the energy to do it. Instead focus on the bigger picture. What will having a clean kitchen do for your stress level? How will you feel once you finish that project? What is good that can be accomplished from this situation? Concentrate on the outcome you hope to achieve, rather than the work or difficulty involved.


  1. But, yes, some of our energy loss is physical. You need to exercise or at least do a small walk or yoga session to feel better. If you have time to watch TV, you have time to exercise. And after watching TV you probably feel like a lump, but after exercising you will most likelyfeel even more energized. Keep that vision of energy in your head to get yourself off the couch.
  2. Eating smaller meals, drinking more water, eating more fruits and vegetables, and taking your vitamins are all great ways to get more energy. If all you eat is fast food and junk food you aren't going to feel fantastic.
  3. You actually do need sleep. As much as you feel it is a waste of time, study after study prove that those who sleep 7-9 hours a night feel better, live longer, have better focus and productivity and are better able to control their emotions. What is the point of trying to get everything done by cutting back on sleep, if you are grumpy, unfocused, and feel awful? How much could you get done if you were energetic, bright-eyed and able to concentrate?


  1. Some of our energy blocks come from emotions that aren't dealt with. Writing in a journal is one of the best way to process your feelings from the day. Write out your anger, stress, sadness and fear. Sometimes you will come up with some action steps to work out your emotions. Sometimes just the act of writing puts them to rest.
  2. Having a support structure of friends and family will energize you. Feel how excited about life you are after getting together for a fun outing with friends. Notice you energy level as you feel connected and loved by someone. And giving support can sometimes give you energy, too. As long as it is a give and take relationship.
  3. Other ways to deal with your emotions: talk it out with someone, cry, think it through, laugh, pray, grieve. Allow yourself to feel, instead of stuffing your emotions away. You will be more alive!


  1. Feeling connected to something higher than yourself, gives you a sense of purpose and direction. You are more energetic, when you feel there is a higer goal involved.
  2. Praying, meditating and reading spiritual literature can give you peace amidst the chaos of life. This time of rest, renews you for the work ahead.
  3. Giving in ways that have meaning to you can fill you with hope and love...and energy. If you find a cause you are passionate about, you will be so inspired. On the other hand, if you are volunteering often doing things you aren't remotely interested in, step back. Allow someone else with that passion and purpose to find their cause.
Take Action

Discern where you may have an energy block. Work on fixing that block. See yourself having plenty of energy and enthusiasm this month.

One essential to success is that your desire be an all-obsessing one, your thoughts and aims be co-ordinated, and your energy be concentrated and applied without letup. - Claude M. Bristol


Contact Beth
I coach stressed-out people looking for peace, balance and purpose. E-mail me for a free exploratory coaching session to experience coaching for yourself. For more information on Encouraging Coach programs, private coaching with Beth, media opportunities, or inviting Beth Dargis to speak to your company or organization, please contact Beth at Or, visit me at

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SELF-CARE Tips for November:

Circle the toys you wish you had gotten as a kid, in the catalog. Try buying one.
Eat nuts in the shell, so you have to take time to crack them
Have a marathon movie session when you are feeling under the weather
Buy yourself a lovely, new hairbrush

Energy is equal to desire and purpose.
- Sheryl Adams

RELATIONSHIP Ideas for November:
Visit an indoor garden with a friend
Go sight-seeing in your city with your love
Go to an instrument store with the kids to see if they can find one they would love to play
Take your sister or friend swimming in an indoor pool

"RELATIONSHIPS are like a dance, with visible energy racing back and forth between partners.." -Colette Dowling


The last 52 tips:
Tiny Change #20: Enjoy nature- take a hike, sit on the beach, dance in the rain

Tiny Change #21: Whenever you feel yourself getting tense, slow down and breathe

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