This Issue --
~Welcome and Encouragement
~Self-Care Tips for September
~Relationship Tips for September
~Feature Article: Victim or Player?
~What's New? News,
Programs, Web Site
~Contact Beth Dargis
Did you work on your
barriers to your goals last month?
Article:Victim or Player?
been reading a fantastic book called 42
Days to Feeling Great by Bob Phillips. He
writes that there are two types of people in this world: those who
are controlled by life’s events and circumstances, and those who
attempt to control their lives. The first group considers themselves
a “victim” of circumstance while the second see themselves as a
“player” in the circumstances.
“Victims think the events
that occur in their lives are the important issue. Players believe
that how that think about and respond to the events is more important
than the events themselves.” Victims make excuses and think that
circumstances determine their life and mental health. Players make
changes and believe attitude determines life and mental health.
wishful thinking, immediate gratification, ease, withdrawal, lack
of goals, powerless, give up easily, low self-esteem, give in to
temptation, discouraged, undisciplined, wait for opportunity.
thinking, delayed gratification, work, involvement, goal setting,
powerful, persistent, healthy self-esteem, resist temptation, enthusiastic,
disciplined, create opportunity.
How about you? Are you
a player or a victim? Do you use your circumstances to make excuses
about why you don’t have the life you want? Do you worry about problems
or do you work on solving problems?
Life rewards action,
not intention. It doesn’t matter if that you wanted to do something
nice for that person, if you don’t actually do it. It doesn’t matter
if you wish your health was different, if you don’t work on improving
it. It doesn’t matter if you worry and mull over something, if you
don’t make any changes.
M. Scott Peck wrote,
“Once we truly know that life is difficult—once we truly
understand and accept it—then life is no longer difficult. Because
once it is accepted, the fact that life if difficult no longer matters.”
I have noticed that those
who think life should always run smoothly are those that are most
miserable. The nature of life is messy, sometimes difficult, sometimes
joyful, always changing. The sooner we realize that fact, the sooner
we can move onto solving problems or accepting situations, instead
of saying, “Why me?”
What situation in your
life recently has made you fall into victim mode?
Which victim adjectives
describe you in relation to this circumstance?
Is this a situation you
can change or one that you can’t change?
If you can change it,
write down as many solution ideas as possible:
If you can’t change it,
what are some steps you can take to reach acceptance and move onto
something you can change?
I will take these 3 actions
this week to move from victim to player:
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Tips for September:
Plan to do an exercise you love at least 3 times a week
gives you the choice…either learn to overcome challenges or succumb
Think about making positive, healthy choices for you
Turn off the TV at least one night a week
Smooth your heels and elbows with a pumice stone
Ideas for September:
Go to a pumpkin farm or market to pick out the perfect pumpkin with
somewhere; you cannot build a reputation on what you intend to do."
Reminisce through old yearbooks with your partner
Massage each other’s necks
some candy corn with a friend
IT DONE DAY
Join the Get
It Done Day the 3rd Tuesday of each month. We will encourage
each other in the chat room to get all those tasks we have been
Oct 21, 03
I am setting up my fall list of clients. Is there something
you wanted to get done before the end of the year and it never happened?
Do you want to create a saner holiday? Has the fall season pumped
you up for going after your goals? If you would like a free exploratory
session to see if coaching is right for you, e-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org
In your request let me know if you prefer e-mail or phone call sessions.
THE WEB SITE
The last two 52 tips:
Change #15: Visualize the
day you want to have while taking your morning shower
Change #16: Remember to laugh: rent a comedy, get silly
with friends, or read a funny book
It’s time to get organized! Organization includes far more than
having a spotless desktop, paying your bills on time and never being
late for a meeting. Organization reaches beyond cleaning up the
physical clutter and into the realm of teamwork. Click here
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