October/November 2004 Newsletter
Creating Nurturing Habits
Creating a saner, simpler life
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"We first make our habits, and then our habits make us.
“Habit is either the best of servants or the worst of masters.”
~ Nathaniel Emmons
One of the main differences between people that succeed in their
plans and people who don't, are their habits.
Picture someone who hits the snooze 5 times as is her habit.
She groggily gets out of bed. Sometimes she exercises, has her
quiet time, and picks up the house in the morning. But, as she
hasn't established any of them as a habit, so most of the time
none of those things happen.
The house is chaotic as everyone fights over whose turn it is
in the bathroom and who has to feed the cat.
She gets to work late, as is her habit. She's not sure where
to start, so she begins with what is on top of the pile. She is
dealing with emergencies all the time. She gets a quick bite to
eat from the vending machine and eats at her desk to try to catch
She picks up fast food on the way home, since she doesn't know
what is for dinner. Another evening spent watching TV, which is
what her family usually does in the evening. She falls asleep
eventually, but tosses and turns because she knows she has forgotten
to do something. Sometimes she takes off her makeup, flosses and
lays out her clothes ahead of time. But, as she hasn't established
any of them as a habit, most of the time none of those things
In the next house over, another woman is drifting off to sleep.
She has already laid out her clothes the night before, performed
her evening beauty routine and wrote out a little to do list for
the next day as are her habits. Since she usually goes to bed
at the same time every night, she falls asleep right away.
The next morning, she gets up even before her alarm. She usually
gets up at the same time every morning, so her body is already
waking up. She has enough time for her quiet time, a walk for
exercise and a quick pick up of the house as per her routine.
Her kids have a routine also, so despite some last minute things
she still gets out of the house on time. She has tried to establish
the habit of being on time out of respect for herself and other
She made her work list before she left work yesterday, so she
knows exactly what her priorities are today. Some interupptions
have happened, but for the most part she deals with the most important
actions of her job. She goes out to lunch with a friend as is
her habit on Thursdays. They have a standing lunch date that doesn't
need to be rescheduled all the time.
After work she smells the crockpot meal cooking as she comes
inside the door. She made up a menu plan on Sunday evening as
she usually does. She peeked at it this morning, to make sure
dinner was started.
Dinner is enjoyed, then the family works together for 1/2 hour
on various chores to get the house back in shape.
Only one hour of TV is allowed so the kids are playing with their
friends or they go on a little evening outing. She plans some
family fun during her weekly planning session on Friday afternoon.
Her habits nurture her and her family.
So, do your habits nurture you?
This month, focus on making one habit that could
nurture you and your family. Here are a few suggestions:
1. Get up ½ hour earlier and be in bed ½ hour earlier
2. Take a walk every day at lunch
3. Eat five servings of fruits and vegetables a day
4. Start a daily journal habit
5. Make a debt reduction planner - Quicken.com has an online planner
6. Create an energizing morning routine which includes some quiet
time, exercise, grooming and household chores
7. Leave 10 minutes earlier for all appointments
8. Planning meals every day
9. Decluttering 5 minutes a day
10. Read a book every two weeks
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Self-Care Tips for November:
Drink extra water for the dryer season
Sneak in exercise whenever you can
Clear off a horizontal space in your home
Go to bed early once a week
"Motivation is what gets you
started. Habit is what keeps you going. " ~Jim Ryan
Relationship Ideas for November:
Play with your kids
Share why you are thankful for someone
Go to a football game with family and friends
Keep an eye out for perfect gifts for Christmas
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence
(aka Areté) then, is not an act, but a habit.” ~Aristotle
I encourage you this month to create a new nurturing habit.
The Encouraging Coach
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