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"You have taught me to believe in myself and to take things slowly, one step at a time, keep sight of my goals, both short term and long term.

Your coaching style was both nuturing and motivating, you seemed to intuitively know some days what I needed most. Your caring and understanding was so appreciated and it came from the heart."

-Holly C.

I would recommend the Simplicity Course as an easy, practical way to start simplifying one's life. I especially liked the segments on Tolerations, Wardrobe, and Office and Paperwork.

Each day focuses on only one task, which is helpful to people who feel overwhelmed by the complexities of modern life and hardly know where to begin downshifting.

-Joan, New York

Beth has an uncanny way of, "reading between the lines" to see a person's heart. I appreciate how genuine she is.

I have already begun implementing her suggestions, and am dumbstruck at how well they are working. I am feeling so much more secure, and feel I am finally put onto a life path that will bring me joy for many years to come."

-Sue Halpern

I feel more focused and have an objective instead of aimlessly filling up the day.

-Shelli Segura



October/November 2004 Newsletter

Creating Nurturing Habits

Creating a saner, simpler life


November 2004

Welcome to Encouraging Words monthly newsletter. You have subscribed because you want encouragement to create a saner, simpler life. Please pass it along to friends who could use this tips.

Most of my readers have already done the New Habits Course: http://www.encouragingcoach.com/programs-habits.htm I have purchased an autoresponder program so instead of receiving the course where you get the 4th lesson on the 4th day of the month, you will start receiving it in order from the day you sign up.


Have you gotten your fr*ee list of 52 tiny changes yet? E-mail: 52changes@encouragingcoach.com with 52 changes in the subject line.

"We first make our habits, and then our habits make us. " ~John Dryden


Creating Nurturing Habits

“Habit is either the best of servants or the worst of masters.”
~ Nathaniel Emmons

One of the main differences between people that succeed in their plans and people who don't, are their habits.

Picture someone who hits the snooze 5 times as is her habit. She groggily gets out of bed. Sometimes she exercises, has her quiet time, and picks up the house in the morning. But, as she hasn't established any of them as a habit, so most of the time none of those things happen.

The house is chaotic as everyone fights over whose turn it is in the bathroom and who has to feed the cat.

She gets to work late, as is her habit. She's not sure where to start, so she begins with what is on top of the pile. She is dealing with emergencies all the time. She gets a quick bite to eat from the vending machine and eats at her desk to try to catch up.

She picks up fast food on the way home, since she doesn't know what is for dinner. Another evening spent watching TV, which is what her family usually does in the evening. She falls asleep eventually, but tosses and turns because she knows she has forgotten to do something. Sometimes she takes off her makeup, flosses and lays out her clothes ahead of time. But, as she hasn't established any of them as a habit, most of the time none of those things happen.

In the next house over, another woman is drifting off to sleep. She has already laid out her clothes the night before, performed her evening beauty routine and wrote out a little to do list for the next day as are her habits. Since she usually goes to bed at the same time every night, she falls asleep right away.

The next morning, she gets up even before her alarm. She usually gets up at the same time every morning, so her body is already waking up. She has enough time for her quiet time, a walk for exercise and a quick pick up of the house as per her routine. Her kids have a routine also, so despite some last minute things she still gets out of the house on time. She has tried to establish the habit of being on time out of respect for herself and other people.

She made her work list before she left work yesterday, so she knows exactly what her priorities are today. Some interupptions have happened, but for the most part she deals with the most important actions of her job. She goes out to lunch with a friend as is her habit on Thursdays. They have a standing lunch date that doesn't need to be rescheduled all the time.

After work she smells the crockpot meal cooking as she comes inside the door. She made up a menu plan on Sunday evening as she usually does. She peeked at it this morning, to make sure dinner was started.

Dinner is enjoyed, then the family works together for 1/2 hour on various chores to get the house back in shape.

Only one hour of TV is allowed so the kids are playing with their friends or they go on a little evening outing. She plans some family fun during her weekly planning session on Friday afternoon. Her habits nurture her and her family.

So, do your habits nurture you?


Action Plan

This month, focus on making one habit that could nurture you and your family. Here are a few suggestions:

1. Get up ½ hour earlier and be in bed ½ hour earlier
2. Take a walk every day at lunch
3. Eat five servings of fruits and vegetables a day
4. Start a daily journal habit
5. Make a debt reduction planner - Quicken.com has an online planner
6. Create an energizing morning routine which includes some quiet time, exercise, grooming and household chores
7. Leave 10 minutes earlier for all appointments
8. Planning meals every day
9. Decluttering 5 minutes a day
10. Read a book every two weeks


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Self-Care Tips for November:

·         Drink extra water for the dryer season

·         Sneak in exercise whenever you can

·         Clear off a horizontal space in your home

·         Go to bed early once a week

"Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going. " ~Jim Ryan


Relationship Ideas for November:

·         Play with your kids

·         Share why you are thankful for someone

·         Go to a football game with family and friends

·         Keep an eye out for perfect gifts for Christmas

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence (aka Areté) then, is not an act, but a habit.” ~Aristotle

I encourage you this month to create a new nurturing habit.


Beth Dargis
The Encouraging Coach


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