NOVEMBER 2002 NEWSLETTER
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The greatest power is often simple patience.--E.
How did your evaluation go last month? Did you
find a new direction and purpose?
THE GIFTS OF WAITING
Standing in line, waiting for the doctor, sitting
in traffic do not sound like presents, but if we look closely
at them we can see the gifts that waiting gives to us.
The Gift of Downtime
We complain that we have no downtime, but every
time we wait in a line is an opportunity to slow down for a little
while, to take a breather. No one is expecting anything from you
at the moment. Often though, we are not relaxed in line. We complain,
look at our watch, and think nasty thoughts about the people ahead
of us in line. We have no control over how fast the line will
move or traffic will go.
The great thing is-we do control our attitude.
We can make waiting a time of rest or a waste of time just by
what we concentrate on.
Anna C. Brackett wrote about waiting in her book
The Technique of Rest in 1892. "When you are waiting for a train,
don't keep perpetually looking to see if it is coming. The time
of its arrival is the business of the conductor, not yours. It
will not come any sooner for all your nervous glances and your
impatient pacing, and you will save strength if you will keep
quiet. After we discover that the people who sit still on a long
railroad journey reach that journey's end at precisely the same
time as those who "fuss" continually, we have a valuable piece
of information which we should not fail to put to practical use."
In line you can daydream. Visualize your goals.
Picture a vacation. Let your mind wander. Pray. Or just breathe
The Gift of Patience
In our fast-paced society we all need a little
practice in patience. Everyone is in such a hurry and no one is
willing to wait for anything. Fast food, ATMís, and the microwave
provide things faster than ever and we donít even want to wait
One definition of patience is: Accepting a difficult
situation without giving a deadline to remove it. If we practice
patience in little things like being on hold, maybe we can be
more patient waiting for our dreams to fall into place.
In order to be more patient in waiting times,
it helps to leave early. Itís easier to wait if you are not going
to be late. Leaving 10 minutes early for everything gives you
the extra time in case something comes up. And something always
No greater thing is created suddenly, any more
than a bunch of grapes or a fig. If you tell me that you desire
a fig, I answer you that there must be time. Let it first blossom,
then bear fruit, then ripen.--Epictetus
The Gift of the Present Moment
The grocery store line was huge right before dinner.
People all around me were complaining about not having time for
this and I was starting to get annoyed. My 10-year old son was
with me. He started talking and we had a whole conversation where
I was able to concentrate solely on him. I had nothing else to
do since I was waiting in a line. I felt so connected to my son
at that moment, I was almost sorry when we got to the checkout
Sometimes we can be in such a hurry to get where
we want to be, that we forget how wonderful here is. Next time
you are waiting, take a look around. There is always something
interesting to look at or discover- paintings, fascinating people,
things to read, or animals.
With kids, it seems I am waiting for hours a day.
Children dawdle because they are so connected to the world around
them. As adults in a hurry, we often miss what they see. If we
slow down we can get that childlike spark back. Waiting is the
perfect time to notice life.
Life is a succession of moments. To live each
one is to succeed.--Coreta Kent
The Gift of Compassion and Humility
In waiting we are always dealing with other people.
What we think of those whom we are waiting behind is rarely compassionate.
We need to change our attitude. You know the one- what we have
to do is more important than what anyone else has to do. Road
rage is an example -driving like a maniac, cutting people off,
risking other drivers because where we are going is more ďimportantĒ
then where someone else is going. Being perpetually in a hurry
and annoyed at being kept waiting is a sign that we are doing
more than we need to. Thatís the time to start cutting things
out of our to do list. I love people watching.
Standing in line at the bank I see a young woman
with her 3-yr-old as she tries desperately to hold on to everything.
I ask if I can hold something and she thankfully gives me her
bag. When you look around you with compassion you are in a position
to help others. Plus, you will feel great afterwards and the wait
wonít seem as long.
You also meet captivating people while waiting.
Talking with others keeps you both from being fed up and you never
know what you will learn. I got some fantastic Christmas gift
ideas yesterday at the grocery store from the lady next to me.
Humility is attentive patience.--Simone Weil It
is in the small moments of life that we show who we are. How do
you want to wait?
1.Decide from now on when you have to wait you
will be in control of your attitude.
2.Be patient with yourself when you find yourself
acting out of impatience.
3.Change your thinking the minute you start feeling
4. Be patient with those around you and look for
ways to help others.
5. Drive the speed limit and sing in the car when
you get stuck in traffic.
6. Leave 10 minutes early for everything.
Self-Care Tips for November:
∑ Remind yourself of what you like to play and
do one thing this week
∑ Unclutter a closet and give away those clothes
that donít make you feel great
∑ Do something creative like cooking, painting
or home decorating
∑ When you want to buy something on impulse, put
it back and see if you still want to buy it in a week.
"If you don't enjoy getting up and working
and finishing your work and sitting down to a meal with family
or friends, then the chances are you're not going to be happy.
If someone bases his or her happiness or unhappiness on major
events like a great new job, huge amounts of money, a flawlessly
happy marriage or a trip to Paris, that person isn't going to
be happy much of the time. If, on the other hand, happiness depends
on a good breakfast, flowers in the yard, a drink or a nap, then
we are more likely to live with quite a bit of happiness."
Relationship Ideas for November:
∑ Have a fall clean-up day with your family-raking,
trimming and ending with hot cider
∑ Have a conversation with someone important to
you, concentrating solely on them
∑ Help one person in need
∑ Make soup for a sick friend
"The cynic says, "One person can't do anything."
I say, "Only one person can do anything." One person interacting
creatively with others can move the world." --John W. Gardner
My new simplicity e-course begins Nov. 1. For
more information and chance to sign up visit: Simplicity
Donít forget to check out this weekís tiny
change on junk drawers: and the
Question of the Week
I encourage you this month to live enthusiastically,
to encourage those around you and to think positively.
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