May 2004 Newsletter
-Do not wish to be anything but what you
are and try to be that perfectly. –St. Francis De Sales
Welcome to Encouraging
Words monthly newsletter. This FREE newsletter is designed
to encourage you to create a saner, more serene life. Please pass
it along to friends you would like to inspire.
I hope you are all having a relaxing spring and working hard
One of the things I worked on was finishing my web site redesign:
I would love if you would check it out and
let me know what you think or if you think I should change anything.
And you can let me know what other programs, courses or articles
you would like to see.
I also finished up the Procrastination
This has been an exciting course to write because of my many
past struggles with procrastination. It's a month long course
with 15 lessons to help you handle many of those procrastinations
on your list. Today's article comes from that course.
Next up will be the f'ree New Habits E-course. My plan is to
have it ready a little before June 1 and have a bunch of us working
on creating a new habit together. I'll have a short daily e-mail
with habit forming suggestions and questions, a messageboard where
we can write our difficulties and "I did its!" I want
the kick off to be June 1st, so be thinking of a habit you would
love to add to your day.
may come to those who wait, but only the things left by those
E-course Day 1 ~ Why?
"I love deadlines. I like the whooshing sound they make as
they fly by." -Douglas Adams
Does that sound like you? It used to be me, too. If I could put
it off, I would. Until I realized I wasn't moving forward on any
of my dreams, because I wouldn't do the work involved. I finally
found ways to beat procrastination.
How much of a procrastinator are you?
Why are you procrastinating?
I can give you all the tips in the world, but until
you know why you are procrastinating, you still aren't going to
want to do the work. If we procrastinate without thinking, it
is very difficult to change. Once we figure out the why, we have
something to work with.
I used to procrastinate on housework big time. I tried to make
it fun and motivate myself to clean, but it didn't work. It wasn't
until I discovered I didn't want to clean because my mom had impossibly
high cleaning standards that I was never able to meet. Then I
was able to tell myself that I don't have to have those standards.
My house, my family, my standards. I still struggle with cleaning,
but am able to tell myself I just need so much and then I am done.
Maybe you realize you are procrastinating because you are overwhelmed.
You don't even know what to do or where to start. Some are easy
reasons, I procrastinate on paying bills, because I don't like
to do them. Perhaps you realize you are procrastinating because
you are scared about the outcome. So, you are not fighting procrastination,
but fear. Maybe you are feeling resentful that someone else in
not doing this. Now we are getting somewhere.
Facing what is behind our procrastination is not easy, but you
can handle it. You are amazing and are better than you think you
for today is to track when you are procrastinating. Print out
this procrastination chart
in Word or make up your own. To make your own chart make a graph
with five columns. I'm Procrastinating On, Time, Feeling, Cause
Could Be and Want to Do Instead of Action
Keep your chart with you throughout the day. Whenever you have
the urge to procrastinate, write down what you are procrastinating
on and what time it is. Now ask yourself what you are feeling.
Are you scared, resentful, tired, thinking this isn't going to
be fun, overwhelmed or a different emotion? Now see if you can
pinpoint what might be the cause of your procrastination. Ask
"Why am I procrastinating?". If you don't have an answer,
that's o.k. Finally, write down what you feel like doing, instead
of your work. Do you want to play a computer game? Read a book?
Bonus: If you still have slots open at the end of the day
in your chart, think of other things you are procrastinating on
and see if you can figure out the reason for those, too.
You might be procrastinating on...
If you want to e-mail me at
with your results, I'd love to see what you came up with. Maybe
I can even give you some personalized suggestions.
Tomorrow: Your Personal Procrastination Pattern
From the Procrastination
Program by Beth Dargis
Self-Care Tips for May:
Finish this sentence from the book Change
your Life by Rhonda Britten: I acknowledge myself for... And
Try one a shirt in turquoise, one of my favorite
Get a pot of hyacinths
"The greatest amount of wasted time
is the time not getting started." Dawson Trotman
Relationship Ideas for May:
Plant a garden with your family
Try a new sport with a friend
Make jewelry with a little girl
Feed the ducks with a special person
is a trap. There will always be reasons to wait...The truth is,
there are only two things in life, reasons and results, and reasons
simply don't count."
-- Robert Anthony
Visit my blog for frequent updates: http://encouragingwords.blogspot.com/
Don't forget Get It Done Day tomorrow, May 18
at 10am EST at http://www.encouragingcoach.com/coaching-chat-room.htm
I encourage you this month to face your fears, take action
and to enjoy the day.
The Encouraging Coach
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