July 2004 Newsletter
Creating a saner, simpler life
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I have been doing some business planning and visioning lately.
I've decided I want to focus on the 8 strategies for creating
a saner, simpler life. Most of the women I have talked with lately
complain of overwhelming schedules and time shortages. The next
8 newsletters will focus on the 8 strategies for creating a saner,
- Personalized simplifying
- Deciding, choosing and planning
- Creating nurturing habits
- Making self-care a priority
- Designing supportive environments
- Paying attention
- Building connecting relationships
- Financial integrity
Getting Things Done:
July 20! Join us for hourly challenges.
"The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary
so that the necessary may speak." ~Hans Hofmann, Introduction
to the Bootstrap, 1993
"We are constantly called on to negotiate between the many
and the one. We cannot be everywhere, we cannot be everything,
indeed. But, we often drive ourselves crazy in the attempt."
~ Marlene A. Schiwy in her book Simple Days
Have you ever tried to simplify your life, only to find you gave
up the things you love? Do you picture simple living as a house
on a farm where you live off the land?
The reason I call it personalized simplicity is because no one
can tell you how to simplify. Only you know what is important
to you and your family. Only you know what you love and don't
like. Any simplifying idea has to be thought through to make sure
it is best for your family. And if you try it out and don't like
it, experiment with a different idea.
Today's article is from my Simplicity
DAY 25: WHAT TO DROP
Did you eliminate your 10 tolerations? If you did, start a
new list and keep going until you are toleration-free.
Today is the last day of the simplicity e-course. We will build
on yesterday’s lesson on finding out what matters to you. Once
you find out what is important, you can eliminate those things,
projects, and to do’s that that don’t add value to your life for
Is there any project you are working on that has no positive
impact on your life? Get rid of it. Are there any crafts projects
you started but didn’t finish and now aren’t interested in? Give
them away. Do you have books on your shelf that you bought because
someone told you should read them, but three years later the books
sit on your shelf unread? Give them away.
Are you in the middle of planning yet another huge Christmas
and you hate Christmas? Don’t do it. People may complain, but
then they can do something about them. Let the person it means
the most to, do it.
Is there anything you do too much of that does not enhance your
life? For example, excess TV watching, talking on the phone, gossiping,
complaining, and working overtime. Wean yourself off those excesses.
You'll be amazed at the time you will get for important things.
Check your life for balance. Where is your life out of whack?
Finances, health, friends, family, work, community, etc. How can
you restore balance? Is there any area that you spend a lot more
time at than you need to?
Drop things from your to do list. The 80/20 principle, says
that 80% of your results, comes from 20% of what you do. So if
you focus more on the 20% that yields results you can improve
your life dramatically. Look into your life and see what is already
working and apply those ideas to other areas of your life. For
more examples on the 80/20 principle visit: http://www.1000ventures.com/business_guide/crosscuttings/80-20principle.html
Are you involved in social groups, volunteer societies or professional
organizations that don’t align with your goals and values? Quit
them. Let go of obligations that just make you feel obligated.
This is not easy. *This means taking responsibility for the choices
you make regarding the use of your time and gently letting others
no you won't be available.*
A big clue to think about when you are dropping things is if
you use the word should. Should is almost always someone else
talking. "You should always be nice." "You should
always make your bed." "You should never sing outside."
"Good moms should always cook big meals every night."
Are your shoulds really your priority or someone else's?
“Apply the “choose life” principle to any questionable situation
which confronts you. You’re tempted to have one more drink; choose
life and have apple juice or water. You’re tempted to indulge
in a piece of chocolate cake; choose life and eat fruit. You’re
tempted to spend another hour watching TV; choose life and read
the Bible. You’re tempted to attend another late-night meeting;
choose life and spend time with your family.” –Lynn Morrissey
This idea of creating your life by dropping things that don’t
fit your life and doing more of what you want to do, is difficult.
You may have people annoyed with you. Your parents may be disappointed
you aren’t doing things their way. But, if you are going to live
the life that only you were meant to live, keep persisting. Continue
asking yourself if you are doing the right thing for the moment.
Projects and things to let go of that no longer
enhance my life.
Congratulations! You are on your way to a simpler
life. Many of the lessons can be done in an ongoing way so peek
back at past lessons to renew your goal of simplicity. Each time
you go through this course, you will be closer and closer to a
If you want a step by step plan to simplify your life, visit
Much Joy Can You Stand?
Learn how to give your own creativity seminars
Self-Care Tips for July:
Take a break
Learn how to use a power tool
Take a meditative walk
"Any intelligent fool can make things
bigger, more complex, and more violent. It takes a touch of genius
- and a lot of courage - to move in the opposite direction."
Relationship Ideas for July:
Invite a group of women over to write or journal
Create a field trip to go on with your kids
"Live simply that others might
simply live." ~Elizabeth Seaton
I encourage you this month to decide what you want, eliminate
the nonessentials and enjoy the wonders around you.
The Encouraging Coach
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