-Do not wish to be anything but what you are and try to be that perfectly. –St. Francis De Sales


Encouraging Words

August 2003

Welcome to Encouraging Words monthly newsletter. This FREE newsletter is designed to encourage you in creating a life so joyful and authentic, you radiate. Please pass it along to friends you would like to inspire.

"You know it’s up to you. You always have an option, to choose what you wanna do, take control or run and hide. It’s OK to take a fall, if you have good intentions. As long as you give it all, you’ll feel good inside.”


Have you been stocking up? Have you at least made a stocking up plan? After the blackout I went through while visiting family in Detroit, I am more convinced than ever in the importance of being prepared.

Whose Life Is This Anyway?

We have this idea that we are just looking at our life as it bobs this way and that according to whatever outside waters are propelling us. We think we have to work this many hours because of our house payment, instead of looking at it from another direction like moving into a smaller house or finding a job with better pay.

We say I’d love to…write, travel, paint, ride horses, learn yoga, but I just don’t have the…time, money, energy… I think many of these “valid excuses” are just ways to hide from risking. In Simple Abundance, Sarah Ban Breathnach writes, “Many of us have unconsciously erected seemingly insurmountable barriers to protect ourselves from failing or succeeding. We may think we’re protecting ourselves by ignoring or denying our creative impulses, but really all we are doing is burying our authentic selves alive.”

Doing our own thing is risky. We don’t want to risk failure- or worse looking silly. But, look around. The happiest people are those doing their passion despite the difficulties or fears.

What kind of barriers or excuses do you use to keep you from the life you really want to live? From what fears are you trying to save yourself?

So many people have worked to make their dreams come true. They may have had to do drastic things like sell their house and live out of a trailer so they could travel the world. Some may have had to cut out some of their spending in order to quit their hated job and open their own business. Maybe you will have to take the risk of saying no to someone in order to take time for a drawing class. Read up on people that are doing what you long to do. Let them help you find solutions to your barriers.

Take Action

Write down your three main excuses for not living the life you want.




Brainstorm ways to work around these barriers. Research online. Talk to people who have done what you want to do.

Look behind the barriers and journal what fears may be behind the excuses.

Take one risk each day this week to forward your dream.


Self-Care Tips for August:

·         Buy some fantastic pens at the back-to-school sales

·         Spend an hour doing a hobby you love

·         Eat a fresh tomato from your garden or a farmer’s market

·         Go to bed early every night for a week

"Nothing happens unless first a dream."

-Carl Sandburg


Relationship Ideas for April:

·         Do someone else’s chores

·         Call a friend to go out for lunch at a new restaurant in town

·         Tape a show for someone who is going to miss it

·         Go on a boat ride with your partner or friend

"Begin somewhere; you cannot build a reputation on what you

intend to do."

               --  Liz Smith

I have my own domain now! You can visit me at www.encouragingcoach.com

I am setting up my fall list of clients. If you would like a free exploratory session to see if coaching is right for you, e-mail me at dargis@chartermi.net In your request let me know if you prefer e-mail or phone call sessions.

I encourage you this month to live out your passions, to be thankful every day and to stand up to fear.

Beth Dargis




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