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"You have taught me to believe in myself and to take things slowly, one step at a time, keep sight of my goals, both short term and long term.

Your coaching style was both nuturing and motivating, you seemed to intuitively know some days what I needed most. Your caring and understanding was so appreciated and it came from the heart."

-Holly C.

I would recommend the Simplicity Course as an easy, practical way to start simplifying one's life. I especially liked the segments on Tolerations, Wardrobe, and Office and Paperwork.

Each day focuses on only one task, which is helpful to people who feel overwhelmed by the complexities of modern life and hardly know where to begin downshifting.

-Joan, New York

Beth has an uncanny way of, "reading between the lines" to see a person's heart. I appreciate how genuine she is.

I have already begun implementing her suggestions, and am dumbstruck at how well they are working. I am feeling so much more secure, and feel I am finally put onto a life path that will bring me joy for many years to come."

-Sue Halpern

I feel more focused and have an objective instead of aimlessly filling up the day.

-Shelli Segura



52 Tiny Changes

You've done it before. Tried to change your whole life in 30 days. Only to fizzle out at day 10 because it take too much time. Join me in making a small change each week and by the end of the year you will have made 52 improvements to your life!

52changes@encouragingcoach.com with 52 changes in the subject line. Or come here each week for a new change and some steps to help you along the way.

Tiny Change # 41: Quit lying and making excuses to yourself

Boy, that one's a little blunt, isn't it? But, it's time to admit that the reason we aren't as successful as we would like is not because of the economy, your spouse, your boss, traffic jams, etc. We are our own worst enemy.

If we are really honest with ourselves we will know that we could be more successful if we...make more phone calls... networked with more people... kept a lid on our temper...put down the donut...did the research.

Instead what do we normally do? We make excuses.

  • I had a cold, headache, was tired
  • It was the wrong time of day
  • My spouse, boss, friend doesn't support me
  • I didn't have enough time
  • He made me get angry
  • I couldn't help it

The main problem with the excuses is that it is hard to change when we blame things outside of our control. We can't control whether or not someone supports us, but we can control how we support ourselves. And we can find a group or friend that will support us.

Most of our time excuses are due to lack of planning, prioritizing and weeding out of unneeded activities. If you have time to watch the Apprentice you have time to exercise. Hey you can even exercise while watching TV.

Health concerns are a difficult one. I know quite a few people with chronic health difficulties. Yet, most of them are as creative and productive as they can be. They know their limits, but they pursue their goals any way. And many health problems can be improved by taking the right steps.

But, we can break free from the bad habit of making excuses.

1. Concentrate only on what you can change or control. You can improve any situation, even if it is just your attitude.

2. When you feel yourself about to make an excuse, ask yourself what the real truth of the situation is.

3. Focus on what you want, not what you think is in your way.

4. Find support to work through fear, doubt and lethargy.

5. Take the first step.

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What are your main excuses for not doing what you want to do? What if you told yourself the truth and took steps to take action?


52 Tiny Changes Archive



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