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"You have taught me to believe in myself and to take things slowly, one step at a time, keep sight of my goals, both short term and long term.

Your coaching style was both nuturing and motivating, you seemed to intuitively know some days what I needed most. Your caring and understanding was so appreciated and it came from the heart."

-Holly C.

I would recommend the Simplicity Course as an easy, practical way to start simplifying one's life. I especially liked the segments on Tolerations, Wardrobe, and Office and Paperwork.

Each day focuses on only one task, which is helpful to people who feel overwhelmed by the complexities of modern life and hardly know where to begin downshifting.

-Joan, New York

Beth has an uncanny way of, "reading between the lines" to see a person's heart. I appreciate how genuine she is.

I have already begun implementing her suggestions, and am dumbstruck at how well they are working. I am feeling so much more secure, and feel I am finally put onto a life path that will bring me joy for many years to come."

-Sue Halpern

I feel more focused and have an objective instead of aimlessly filling up the day.

-Shelli Segura

 

 

52 Tiny Changes

You've done it before. Tried to change your whole life in 30 days. Only to fizzle out at day 10 because it take too much time. Join me in making a small change each week and by the end of the year you will have made 52 improvements to your life!

52changes@encouragingcoach.com with 52 changes in the subject line. Or come here each week for a new change and some steps to help you along the way.

Tiny Change #24: Forget the mistakes of yesterday, today is too important to miss

Forget past mistakes. Forget failures. Forget everything except what you're going to do now, and do it." ~William Durant

"Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could; some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense." -- Ralph Waldo Emerson

I love these quotes. I have known people so paralyzed by their past mistakes, that they sabatoge their future. I know someone that still brings up the bad grade in 7th grade English. As if it affected her life today. The only reason it still affects her, is because she still dwells on it.

How many times do you say, "If only this had happened...", "I should have done...", "Why didn't I..." "I wish I would have..." These are useless questions. They try to get you to undo what's been done. They help your mind search for answer like, "well because you always do stupid things like that." or "because you are an idiot." Not exactly helpful.

But, forgetting mistakes is not about forgetting the lessons. That is what mistakes are for- to teach us. The better questions is, "What can I do differently next time." Once you get the lesson, take action. Write a new system of doing it. Write insighs in your journal. Call and apologize.

Then move on. If you are still wallowing in should haves, ask yourself if you have gotten your lesson from it. If you have, keep telling yourself it was a learning moment. Everyone goofs. That just means you are part of the human race. Be gentle with yourself and quit allowing yourself to beat up on you.

Every time you dwell on a past mistake, you are less likely to take chances, you stop trusting your instincts, or you don't feel confident. Ask yourself, "If my best friend made this same mistake, what would I say to her?" Most likely not, "How could you be so incompetant? Instead you would say, "It's no big deal. It will get straightened out. You did the best you could with what you knew."

So today, close the door on past mistakes and forgive yourself.

Resources:

WebMD Learning to Forgive Yourself for your health

Learning to Forgive Yourself By Mark Victor Hansen

Can You Ever Forgive Yourself 10 ways to stop beating yourself up

What do you need to forgive yourself for?

 

52 Tiny Changes Archive

 

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