52 Tiny Changes
You've done it before. Tried to change your whole life in 30
days. Only to fizzle out at day 10 because it take too much time.
Join me in making a small change each week and by the end of the
year you will have made 52 improvements to your life!
with 52 changes in the subject line. Or come here each week for
a new change and some steps to help you along the way.
Tiny Change #24: Forget the mistakes of yesterday, today
is too important to miss
Forget past mistakes. Forget failures. Forget everything except
what you're going to do now, and do it." ~William Durant
"Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you
could; some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them
as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it
serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your
old nonsense." -- Ralph Waldo Emerson
I love these quotes. I have known people so paralyzed by their
past mistakes, that they sabatoge their future. I know someone
that still brings up the bad grade in 7th grade English. As if
it affected her life today. The only reason it still affects her,
is because she still dwells on it.
How many times do you say, "If only this had happened...",
"I should have done...", "Why didn't I..."
"I wish I would have..." These are useless questions.
They try to get you to undo what's been done. They help your mind
search for answer like, "well because you always do stupid
things like that." or "because you are an idiot."
Not exactly helpful.
But, forgetting mistakes is not about forgetting the lessons.
That is what mistakes are for- to teach us. The better questions
is, "What can I do differently next time." Once you
get the lesson, take action. Write a new system of doing it. Write
insighs in your journal. Call and apologize.
Then move on. If you are still wallowing in should haves, ask
yourself if you have gotten your lesson from it. If you have,
keep telling yourself it was a learning moment. Everyone goofs.
That just means you are part of the human race. Be gentle with
yourself and quit allowing yourself to beat up on you.
Every time you dwell on a past mistake, you are less likely to
take chances, you stop trusting your instincts, or you don't feel
confident. Ask yourself, "If my best friend made this same
mistake, what would I say to her?" Most likely not, "How
could you be so incompetant? Instead you would say, "It's
no big deal. It will get straightened out. You did the best you
could with what you knew."
So today, close the door on past mistakes and forgive yourself.
Learning to Forgive Yourself for your health
to Forgive Yourself By Mark Victor Hansen
You Ever Forgive Yourself 10 ways to stop beating yourself
What do you need to forgive yourself for?
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