52 Tiny Changes
You've done it before. Tried to change your whole life in 30
days. Only to fizzle out at day 10 because it take too much time.
Join me in making a small change each week and by the end of the
year you will have made 52 improvements to your life!
with 52 changes in the subject line. Or come here each week for
a new change and some steps to help you along the way.
Tiny Change #21 Whenever you feel yourself
getting tense, slow down and breathe
How many times have you been working on something
and getting more and more frustrated? Nothing seems to be flowing.
You are getting uptight. But, you keep plowing through. You figure
if you just keep going harder at this project, it will work out.
Try an experiment. Next time you start feeling
frustrated and tense, stop. Take a few deep breaths. Slow
down your mind till you are more relaxed. Try to catch yourself
when you first start feeling tense, so you can relax quicker.
Now you can ask yourself some questions.
"How am I feeling right now?"
"What do I need to feel better?"
"What is the present situation?"
"What is good about this situation?"
"What would make this work better?"
"What am I missing?"
"Would it help to collaborate with someone else?"
"Do I have all the information I need?"
"Does this need to be broken down into smaller bites?"
"Will this situation matter in a month?"
"What is the real reason for my frustration? Am I worried
someone will find me incompetent or unintelligent?"
"Do I need to change my thinking pattern here?"
You don't need to ask yourself each of these questions
every time. Each pause gives you a chance to ask yourself questions
that are important to your particular stressor. It is helpful
to ask about the present situation and what you can do to improve
it. Even if it just changing your mind set. Instead of being annoyed
at being stuck in traffic, acknowledge that you can't do anything
about it and enjoy a moment of quiet in the car from your hectic
We all get these frustrations throughout the day.
If we just stop, breathe and think we may find ways to make these
moments better. Maybe you will discover you need a break to walk
around the block. Maybe you realize you are stuck and need to
ask for help. You might decide you need to restructure your time
and priorities. Or you find once you relax, that the answer to
your problem pops into your head.
To remind yourself to stop, breathe and think,
you might want to put a message on your computer desk, on your
to do list or your dashboard. You might also want to print out
a list of questions to ask yourself when you are under stress,
that you can carry with you.
Stress More questions to ask yourself
for Managing Stress From the author of running on empty
relationship between stress and breathing
How will you remember to stop and breathe?
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